Skank Attack in Albuquerque

I don't know what it is about this Flying J. One time I was here and I was talking to my wife on the phone with the window open. There was this nice breeze and it was a good day. Then to my dismay this ugly, ice pick groomed, toothless lot lizard skank jumps right up on my step and with my wife on the phone, proceeds to ask me what I would like to do tonight and did I want someone to talk to. Boy, that was a great one to pull with my wife on the phone. Anyway, I am sure it was the same one that woke me up today. Only, this time it was at 4:53 am. The hour did not change either my answer to her or her looks. Either it was the same one or they have a cloning factory producing them. Time for a new model. But, I tell you what, if you happen to have an absolutely poppin', smokin', awesome looking hooker approach you and ask you for a date, Tell her that you do not have a corsage and walk away because good looking truck stop hookers are either completely bonkers or they are the Police. Either way, you are asking for it.

I was driving merrily across I-40 yesterday and noticed as the day for my driving was about over that really, nothing happened. I saw no wrecks, nothing of notice. That is almost strange. I heard about some interesting stuff on the news. None of it within eyes view of my windshield. That is awesome. When something big is going on and hits national news just as you drive by it. Yesterday, some drivers got to see the smoke and evacuation of the Monte Carlo in Las Vegas. It is right next to the I15 freeway and I am sure that the commotion was grand. I just hope no one lost their lives.

The Three Burritos:

When I was in first grade we lived on 3802 Grand Avenue in Pomona, CA. My mom had divorced my father and ended up where she clearly did not want to be. Back at home under the aegis of my Grandfather. She hastily sought escape and latched on to the first sorry suspect to fall under her gaze, his name was Ron.

Ron was a tall lanky loser that liked beer and Mopars and racing Mopars. He had a job at Dub Minton's garage in Pomona and made a not so respectable wage of 65 bucks a week. The apartment was also 65 bucks per month. Since my mother was rather insincere and had difficulty with the truth, I was never able to extract the exact terms of their arrangement aside from the fact that she did not love him, but somehow managed to go to Las Vegas and marry him. My grandfather did not really like him and that should have been a sign. My brother and I did not like him either, as he really liked to be a father in no other way but discipline and the belt.

Here was the arrangement as I saw it. My mom did not work but we were to be fed somehow. So my mom would feed me and my brother oatmeal, cornmeal mush and any other crap that she would call food, but me and my brother would just call it crap. Somehow there was enough money for Ron to be able to eat to his liking. We were not getting enough to eat and yet we had to endure the cooking of porterhouse steaks for Ron and Mom while we had as I described earlier as "crap". All I remember is that I was hungry all the time. Breakfast could be eaten but only if I did not pack a lunch. A teacher discovered that I had no lunch and I repeated my mothers words verbatim to her. That was changed to I could eat lunch but no breakfast because of my big mouth.

Their was plenty of money also left over for Ron to campaign 4 different cars in his racing endeavors. Funny thing though...he never won much money driving those purpose built 10 second cars. He won a pot of money off of our daily driver 1966 Polara with a 383 in bracket racing. He could have saved one heck of a lot of money by just racing that. There was also money for Ron to sit in the front yard and bench race and drink beer with his friends. We were expected to play and act happy and we made horseshoes with the beer cans and kicked them around. You could get a good horseshoe out of a can in those days as they were made of steel and once they bent, they stayed on your feet for awhile.

During this time, my mother started acting strange. You never knew what you were going to end up with at the end of the school day. One day, I came in from first grade and my mom grabbed me by the hair and pulled me into the wall face first. I asked her what was wrong as I cried. She replied, "you took 2 extra fig newtons in your lunch." That was it. I mean I just can't imagine being so mean that you would deny your own child 2 cookies. The problem was, I had no idea what she was talking about. I hadn't even seen those cookies and yet, I was getting smacked around. I was grounded and sent to my room. When my brother came home from the babysitter (yes, that is right). He got the same treatment in much the same fashion.

During that time, Ron regained custody of his children from his prior marriage to Carol, who was now married to Sonny. Me and my brother got to meet Ronnie and Lori and we all moved into one bedroom at that place. It was always really clear to me and my brother that these kids of his were to be favored over us. At Christmas one year I got a car and it was already broken. Ronnie got his car and it was a 1968 Shelby Mustang with a battery powered clear working engine. Most of the memorable gifts that my brother and I received came from my grandparents. Not much in money, but things we needed...actually, they gave to me and my brother year around. I am sure glad we had them or life would have actually been worse than it was already.

Also during this time, my mother would leave all of us kids outside. Oftentimes, from 8 am to 9 or 10 pm. If we had to pee, we had to pee outside. She did not want us in her house as we were dirty and we would mess up her ready for Good Housekeeping home. There were times when Ron would come home with friends and drink beer in the driveway while us kids were bathed under cold water with the hose in the driveway because we were "dirty", much too dirty for her house. It was also during this time that the Burrito incident occurred. It started on a Saturday morning. We were sent out to play as usual. When I went in to use the bathroom later in the morning, the door was locked. No answer at all. Soon others had to use the bathroom and knocked and pounded on the door to get in to no avail. We went without lunch that day and we went without supper. It was cooling down quick at around 1030 pm when my mom opened the door and said "if you wanted to come in, why didn't you just ask?". We were directed to bed straight away. We were hungry and dirty from playing in the dirt all day. Bed.

The next morning, Ron was not at home and I got up to see if there was something to eat. I had gotten used to getting dressed if only to go to the bathroom in case there was a commotion, I could have a quick escape. My mother would seldom ever venture outside to chase us and that was well known. My mom got up and intercepted me before I could grab some food and I was outdoors with a shove. The others were woke up and sent outside to "play". We were all grumbling about being hungry so I went up to the door and knocked and said that I was hungry and that I needed something to eat. My mom said that she would make us some burritos and that we had to be good in order to get them. In fact she said that the one who was the most well behaved would receive something special. We stayed away from the house and did not bother mom once as we were really hungry and needed something to eat. It had been 2 days since our dog Maggie had anything to eat either as we were out of food for her as well or it was in the house, I can't remember. Anyway, the door finally opened at 6 pm and my mom comes out with an old Pup 'n' Taco bag with three bean burritos in it. She proclaims that we were not good and as a result we had just better get into the car and right now. We did as she told us. As we were waiting for her to get to the car, she opened the burritos in front of us and fed them to Maggie. The other kids started crying, but I refused. I was too angry. There had to be someone that could do something about this. We were taken to Gwen and Fred's house to visit. The whole time, even though I said I was hungry, no food. Honestly, I can't remember when we finally got to eat. I know we went at least 2 days without food though.

That is not the worst part of the story however. The worst part is that this whole thing, the starvation and abuse happened 75 feet from Ron's mothers house. It was a three apartment flat we lived in. The the doors were 30 feet apart. We were in the back apartment, Ron's mother was in the front. Her name was Grandma May and she did not do shit for us children. She was home the whole time, her curtains were open and she saw us there. When we went to her house, we told her that mom had locked us out and that we were hungry and she told us that she was ill and did not want any guests. The funny thing is that two of us children were her blood relation grandchildren and she turned them away hungry and filthy as well. She was too good to deal with children that were dirty and hungry.

Perhaps that is not the worst part of the story. Maybe it was the fact that years later I confronted my mother about this when I had 2 children of my own and had made sure that my kids wanted for nothing. I never left them alone in the elements with no food or concern for their safety. The question I asked was "what was going through your mind when you had your children unfed for 2 days and locked outdoors and your children were knocking on the door asking for your help as a parent, as an adult?" Her reply was really interesting. She said that she knew alot of things that were unpleasant happened and for the most part, it was Rons fault. Unwilling to let her off the hook, I countered with how could you do such a thing to your children? She replied, and I remember this to this very day. She said, "look, just don't let the same thing happen to your kids if you feel it was so bad, OK?

Her name is Avelie Mirron McIntyre, age 67 but her licence may read Lee M. McIntyre or Becker for a last name. Her birthday is February 21st and she is too regal to answer my calls. She hasn't answered one for over a year now. She either resides with her daughter (my half sister Lisa) who has 4 children from 4 different fathers and a drug rap sheet a mile long. The city they lived in last was La Verne, CA or it might be San Dimas or Pomona. 5 foot 5 inches tall, auburn died hair cut in a bob and she worked for the local bus service in Pomona. If you see her or if you know her, ask her if she would like to have a burrito. But she will have to wait a long time for it. Dedication :)

Anyone wanting to pass this along may do so as I think that stories like this happen every day.